It’s really hard to be true to who we really are. Things like social media and friendship circles constantly create pressure to be someone we are not. We are always made to feel like we are too different to fit in or need to change to be accepted by others.
It sounds cliché, but these differences are what make you, you! To be true to yourself, you can start by accepting these differences, owning them and using them to your advantage. Think about how boring the world would be if everyone was the same. We need differences.
That said, remaining true to yourself is a lot easier said than done. You might be feeling pressured to conform to a new friend group, or just don’t feel as if you fit in with those around you, and the trend to just ‘be like everyone else’ can make anyone feel like an outsider.
A good way of being true to yourself is to surround yourself with others who do the same. Social pressure can be subtle, but it has enormous impacts on how we see ourselves. Being around people who can embrace the parts of us we think are silly, uncool or even just out of the ordinary, goes an enormous way to helping us accept ourselves. It may take time to find these people, but once you do, you'll realise the unique qualities you have are also the reasons they love you.
Sometimes, we don’t actually know or recognise that we aren’t being true to ourselves. Hiding parts of yourself can make you feel as if you’re living a lie. If these parts have been hidden for a long time, it can be stressful and confusing.
We learn to compare ourselves with others, with their accomplishments, what they do and how they look – it’s normal to want to be like everyone else. People-pleasing is an extremely common way to try and fit in. Sadly, pleasing others can be the very thing that stops us from being true to who we are.
Being true to ourselves means being able to be honest about our opinions, feelings, and needs – we should never feel ashamed to voice our thoughts to those around us (as long as those opinions don’t unnecessarily hurt anyone else). Trust yourself and begin to embrace the things that make you an individual. Remember, if the people around you don't accept you for who you are, then they're not the right people to be around. Don't live to exist, exist to live!
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Man's Search For Meaning by Victor E. Frankl Psychiatrist Viktor Frankl's memoir contains descriptions of life in Nazi death camps and its lessons for spiritual survival. Based on his own experience and the stories of his patients, Frankl argues that we cannot avoid suffering but we can choose how to cope with it, find meaning in it, and move forward with renewed purpose.
Call Me By Your Name by André Aciman
This novel is a story of sudden and powerful romance that blossoms between an adolescent boy and a summer guest at his parents' cliff-side mansion on the Italian Riviera.
How to be Successful by Being Yourself by David Taylor
This book will change your life in whatever way you want, just by reading it. No hype, jargon or hard work - simply words that will open up new possibilities around you and re-programme your mental software to remove your fears, worries and limiting beliefs.
Chiron, a young African-American boy, finds guidance in Juan, a drug dealer, who teaches him to carve his own path. As he grows up in Miami, Juan's advice leaves a lasting impression on him.
Little Miss Sunshine A family decide to travel across the country when their daughter wants to participate in a beauty pageant, unaware of what the journey has in store for them.
Scott Pilgrim vs The World Scott Pilgrim meets Ramona and instantly falls in love with her. But when he meets one of her exes at a band competition, he realises that he has to deal with all seven of her exes to woo her.
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