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feeling Down from being rejected or let down

Sadly, other people will inevitably disappoint you or let you down. Whether it's a friend cancelling arrangements at the last minute, or family members not showing to an important occasion. It doesn’t matter what it is, it hurts.

Fortunately, there are a few things that will help you recover and begin to move forward.

1. Allow your feelings. Being rejected, let down, or betrayed does not feel great. Whatever you are feeling, acknowledge and don’t try shove it down. Put the feeling into words and locate where you feel it in your body. This is going to ground you. Once you have done that ask yourself if what you are feeling is appropriate for the situation? It might just be triggered from something your past.

2. Acknowledge your unmet needs. The next step is to figure out why you feel this way. Maybe you needs are not being met? Do you need understanding, empathy, support, companionship, commitment, or consideration? Let yourself feel the unmet need. Talk to someone about it. Feel the disappointment of the unmet need, and then ask yourself whether you can accept that need not being met in this situation, or whether you want to do something about it.

3. Take care of yourself. Are there ways you can meet the unmet need for yourself? For example, if you have a plan to see a movie, and your friend cancels at the last minute, go by yourself. Maybe another friend wants to come? Just be compassionate and don’t let resentment get the better of you.

4. Decide if you need to speak up. Think about whether it would be useful to speak up about your feelings. If you decide to speak up, do it mindfully – getting could make things worse. If it's a difficult conversation, practice what you're going to say beforehand.

5. Examine your expectations. Think about whether your expectations are reasonable in this situation, and whether the other person is capable of doing what you expect. Maybe you need adjust your expectations, or even just communicate them clearly. If it's a good friend or loved one, assume that they had the best intentions, unless you have evidence to say otherwise.

6. Set boundaries if you need to. If some continually disappoints you, maybe it’s time to point some boundaries in place. Maybe you can see them less, or not see them at all. Either way, make it clear that if they hurt again, there will be consequences. Stick to your boundaries, they will make you safe.

Most importantly, learn from the experience, and don't let other people's issues pull you down. You can choose how to react, even if you didn't choose the situation.

Change your perspective and uncover a way forward for you!

Here are some things that can help you with that.

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Great
reads

How to Find What You're Not Looking For by Veera Hiranandani
As change becomes Ariel's only constant, she's left to hone something that will be with her always--her own voice.

The Hideaway by Pam Smy
Told in two alternating narratives, The Hideaway tells the story of Billy McKenna, who runs away from home and takes refuge in an overgrown graveyard.

A Long Walk to Water by Linda Sue Park
This #1 New York Times best-selling novel is a powerful tale of perseverance and hope.

Great
Films

Inside Out
11-year-old Riley moves cities and leaves behind her friends. Her and her five emotions Fear, Anger, Joy, Disgust and Sadness, struggle as she adapts to her new life.

Coco
Miguel pursues his love for singing in spite of his family's ban on music. He stumbles into the Land of the Dead, where he attempts to keep his great-great grandfather alive.

Up
Carl, an old widower, goes off on an adventure in his flying house in search of Paradise Falls, his wife's dream destination.

Spotify

Here is a playlist about being rejected and how we can relate through these difficult times.

Podcasts

Dear Hank & John
This is a lighthearted advice podcast where they answer questions on everything from random thoughts to deep, emotional topics.

On Purpose
In this episode Jay Shetty shares 6 ways you can start to gracefully deal with rejection in any situation.

Bounce Back
Andrew talks to prominent Australians about challenges that they've incurred, and how they’ve overcome these difficulties on the road to success.

Places to find more resources

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