Feeling like no one understands you is stressful. We need to feel connected to, and valued by others. When we don’t feel that way it can be frustrating, and even painful.
If you feel this way, the first thing you should know is: you're courageous. You’re brave enough to be someone that no one understands. You have the courage to live in a way that you want, despite what other people think. Acknowledge and celebrate your courage.
When you feel like no one understands you, it’s easy to take it personally, but try not to. The fact that people don’t understand you may be because of how they have chosen to live their lives, not how you chose you to live your life. It might not be that no one at all understands you, but that no one you know understands you.
So, it may be a case of seeking out the people who do understand you. Your family, friends and community might not get you, but there will be people out there who get you, who understand the way you think and feel. You just need to find them.
You’ve got this.
Change your perspective and uncover a way forward for you!
Here are some things that can help you with that.
YouTube
Great
reads
The Catcher in the Rye by J.D Salinger
This is classic. Main character Holden finds himself wandering around New York. As he stumbles around he feel alienated, isolated and at odds with everyone around him.
Luna by Julie Anne Peters
Liam lives a double life. By day he is Liam, the boy everyone knows, by night Liam transform into Luna - the person Liam really wants to be, but is scared to reveal to their family
The Outsider by Colin Wilson
This seminal work is about alienation, creativity and the modern mindset. It is about intense self exploration, living on the edge and standing for the truth.
Great
Films
Laurence Anyways
In the '90s, Laurence tells his girlfriend, Fred, that he wants to become a woman; they confront the prejudices of their friends, ignore the council of their families and brave the phobias of the society they offend.
Tomboy
The story revolves around a trans girl who is introduced to her neighborhood as a boy but feels alienated in the society.
Billy Elliot
The life of 11-year-old Billy Elliot, a coal miner's son in Northern England, is forever changed one day when he stumbles upon a ballet class during his weekly boxing lesson.
Spotify
You'll meet someone, some day that will get you, but for now these artists might.
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