The Internet and social media impact how we see ourselves. The gap between what we see online, and everyday life, creates unhealthy expectations for not only our appearance, but also attitudes and lifestyles.
Given that nowadays almost every image has been pumped through photoshop, it’s no wonder we feel inadequate in comparison. It’s normal to want the kinds of beauty and success found on social media, however, here are some tips to embrace the person we see in the mirror.
1. There is no ‘perfect’ body: everyone comes in different shapes and sizes, and it’s this ‘difference’ that makes people unique and special. There is no textbook ideal body type, and it’s unrealistic to appeal to standards we see in the media. These standards are created by cosmetic companies looking to profit off your insecurity.
2. Health ALWAYS trumps appearance: no matter how ‘perfect’ your body is, health should always come first. Our bodies need to be active; they require nurturing and nourishment, which doesn’t come from extreme diets and unhealthy eating habits.
3. Be kind to yourself: people are not machines, and humans weren’t made to be ‘perfect’. We are flawed beings, and negative self-talk and criticism damage your self-esteem and mental stability. Remember, mental health is just as, if not more, important than physical health.
It’s hard living in an age where we feel constantly compared to others. Whether it be friends, family, or those you see online, comparison seems inescapable.
Remember, our differences and individuality, is what makes you special. A world filled with physically ‘perfect’ people would eliminate the things that make us, us.
It seems cliché to say, but truly, it’s what’s on the inside that counts. The sting of dissatisfaction with our physical appearance can be brutal and long-lasting, however, I can guarantee that those who love you see beyond skin-deep qualities – so should you.
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