Sometimes we feel like we are not pretty or good-looking enough. This feeling hurts. Accept that. It hurts to feel ugly, and so many people and so many things can make you feel this way.
Once you have accepted this feeling, start to work on ways to make yourself feel comfortable with who you are, and how you look. That’s what is most important.
You’ll realise, that looks only matter to some people. Being kind, caring, intelligent, funny are all attractive. There are thousands of things that people find attractive. You’ll have at least a few. Just asked your best friend.
So, it’s not about being more attractive. You shouldn’t have to try to be someone you're not. It’s a matter of finding people that make you feel attractive for who you are. Find people that celebrate and appreciate you for the person you are.
If you do feel unattractive, think about the people in your life. Do they say and do things that make you feel unattractive? Perhaps there were people and experiences in the past that made you feel unattractive.
Think about where this feeling is coming from.
As hard as it might be, begin to accept yourself. You don’t even have to love what you see. Just accept the good and the bad. Accepting your flaws and blemishes can make us feel better.
Once you accept yourself you can start to feel comfortable with who you are. You can begin to heal from all the hurt you feel. Once this happens, you are more likely to find people that will support, celebrate and encourage you.
Good luck.
Change your perspective and uncover a way forward for you!
Here are some things that can help you with that.
YouTube
Great
reads
Brave by Svetlana Chmakova
Jensen struggles with friendship and bullies. When two kids from the school newspaper tease him with social-experiment projects, he’s called upon to be brave.
Lily and Dunkin by Donna Gephart
Kids find it hard to deal with their parents and classmates constantly teasing them. But they find comfort and joy in friendship with each other.
Frazzled by Booki Vivat
Abbie Wu struggles with fear and anxiety as the middle child between perfect siblings. Abbie organises a secret lunch swap and finds both self-confidence and a passion for effecting social change.
Great
Films
Eighth Grade
Kayla Day, an eighth grader, is introverted but also posts videos about self-confidence on the Internet. Later, she realises she is not the person she is pretending to be and overcomes her fears.
Brave
Merida disobeys an ancient custom which unleashes a dark force. After meeting an elderly witch, as she journeys to reverse the curse, she discovers the real meaning of bravery.
Dumplin'
Willowdean, an overweight teenager of a yesteryear beauty queen, decides to participate in her mother's Miss Teen Bluebonnet pageant to prove a point.
Spotify
This playlist will make you feel like you can conquer the world.
Podcasts
The Verywell Mind Podcast with Amy Morin
This podcast is crammed full of practical discussions and advice on everything from confidence to self-doubt.
The Self Esteem and Confidence Mindset
In this episode Jonny discusses chasing confidence and self-esteem. Sound familiar?
Confidence & Self Esteem Podcast
This episode discusses getting slightly out of your comfort zone and challenging yourself.
Places to find more resources
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