Instagram likes, love reacts and selfies - it’s easy to feel inadequate and compare ourselves to others. It’s harder to ignore the constant posts and not compare ourselves to unrealistic standards - where airbrushing, photoshop and face-tune are the norm. Everyone has days where they don’t like what they see in the mirror. Even though it might not seem like it, everyone struggles with insecurities and it’s almost an expected part of being alive.
Self-improvement begins when we realise that what we portray on the outside is a direct reflection of how we’re feeling on the inside. This means, if we want to improve our appearance and be more attractive, we need to start appreciating our own flaws and shortcomings. Sure, people are superficial and society’s beauty standards play a major role in whether or not people think we are attractive, but studies show being confident in who you really are does make you more attractive.
Wishing you were more attractive is a natural response; today, everyone is hyper-focused on their appearance and how they are perceived by others. Social media, only makes this worse – we constantly see images of ‘perfect’ people. When it feels too much, remember people that we think are attractive also are dealing with their own insecurities – they have found all the flaws with their own appearance, just like you have.
If you want to change your appearance, make sure you have nurtured and cared for how you look on the inside first. Supporting and strengthening our mental health is so crucial to self-improvement, so remember to be kind to yourself. As hard it is, try not let your worries impact the way you view yourself. You are beautiful for your faults and flaws, for your hobbies and quirks, not just appearance.
Make sure to surround yourself with people who affirm you and your worth, rather than tear you down.
Change your perspective and uncover a way forward for you!
Just as You Are by Michelle and Kelly Skeen. This book offers simple tips to help you overcome feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness, stop comparing yourself to others, and be more open and accepting of all aspects of who you are.
Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert
This book asks us to embrace our curiosity and let go of needless suffering. She shows us how to tackle what we most love, and how to face down what we most fear.
You are a Badass by Jen Sincero
By the end of the book you'll understand why you are how you are, how to love what you can't change and how to change what you don't love.
Cher is a rich high school student, learning to cope with adolescence and its problems. She helps a new student gain popularity and discovers her own value and feelings in the process.
A League of Their Own Dottie and Kit are drafted into a professional baseball league along with several other women. However, things take a turn when Jimmy, an alcoholic and a former star, is forced to manage them.
Before graduation, best friends Amy and Molly realise that they have been cast aside by their peers for being bookworms and pretentious. They then decide to let loose and make up for the lost time.
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