It’s easy to feel like you’re not attractive enough. Almost everywhere you look there are more attractive people, living happier lives. This feeling is difficult to deal with. Acknowledge that. It hurts to feel unattractive, and so many people and so many things can you feel this way.
Once you have accepted this feeling, start to work on ways to make yourself feel comfortable with yourself. That’s what is most important.
You’ll realise, that looks only matter to some people. Being kind, caring, intelligent, funny are all attractive. There are thousands of traits that people find attractive. Guaranteed you will have at least a few. Just asked your best friend. .
So, it’s not about being more attractive. You shouldn’t have to try to be someone you're not. It’s a matter of finding people that make you feel attractive for who you are. Find people that celebrate and appreciate you, for the person you are. .
If you do feel unattractive, think about the people in your life. Do they say and do things that make you feel unattractive? Perhaps there were people and experiences in the past that made you feel unattractive..
Think about where this feeling is coming from.
As hard as it might be, begin to accept yourself. You don’t even have to love what you see. Just accept the good and the bad. Accepting your flaws and blemishes is a long but important journey. .
Once you accept yourself you can start to feel comfortable with who you are. You can begin to heal from all the hurt you feel. Once this happens, you are more likely to find people that will support, celebrate, and encourage you.
Good luck.
Change your perspective and uncover a way forward for you!
Here are some things that can help you with that.
YouTube
Great
reads
The Confidence Code by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman
Combining cutting-edge research in genetics, gender, behaviour, and cognition, they offer the inspiration and practical advice women need to achieve the careers they want and deserve.
Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert
This book asks us to embrace our curiosity and let go of needless suffering. She shows us how to tackle what we most love, and how to face down what we most fear.
You are a Badass by Jen Sincero
By the end of the book you'll understand why you are how you are, how to love what you can't change and how to change what you don't love.
Great
Films
Clueless
Cher is a rich high school student, learning to cope with adolescence and its problems. She helps a new student gain popularity and discovers her own value and feelings in the process.
A League of Their Own
Dottie and Kit are drafted into a professional baseball league along with several other women. However, things take a turn when Jimmy, an alcoholic and a former star, is forced to manage them.
Booksmart
Before graduation, best friends Amy and Molly realise that they have been cast aside by their peers for being bookworms and pretentious. They then decide to let loose and make up for the lost time.
Spotify
This playlist will make you feel like you can conquer the world.
Podcasts
The Verywell Mind Podcast with Amy Morin
This podcast is crammed full of practical discussions and advice on everything from confidence to self-doubt.
The Self Esteem and Confidence Mindset
In this episode Jonny discusses chasing confidence and self-esteem. Sound familiar?
Confidence & Self Esteem Podcast
This episode discusses getting slightly out of your comfort zone and challenging yourself.
Places to find more resources
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