We have all been angry. You want to scream, or shout. It builds up inside and the only thing you can think to do is get it all out. (That rhymed, impressed?) Well, anger is natural. But unfortunately, anger makes do this we regret later. We have all said stuff that we didn’t mean and ended up hurting someone close to us.
Now, sometimes our anger is justified. There are issues in this world that we should be angry about. Racism, equal rights, etc... are things to be angry about, for example.
What we are focusing on here, are all the times you got angry and then later thought “Man, I probably shouldn’t have shouted at my brother for breathing.”
If you think it is time to change, here are some things you can do.
Firstly, don’t lash out. Rather, become aware of your thoughts and feelings when you get angry. Then, try your absolute best not to do or say the first thing that pops into your head (probably the second and third thing as well. Yeah, don’t do those). This will help you act in a way that you probably want regret later.
Secondly - or maybe even firstly - identify what makes you angry. Make a list of all the things that boil your blood in your daily life. Then, when you notice one of those things happening, get ready to feel angry and see if you can calm down despite of it.
Thirdly, turn the “you” into an “I” (not eye). So often when we are angry, we are quick to blame others. “YOU are late” “YOU are so annoying”. Well, next time you get angry don’t focus on what someone else has done, but rather, focus on what you are feeling. Maybe you are feeling nervous, worried or upset. You know what I mean? For example.
Good luck and forgive your brother for breathing – it's about time.
Change your perspective and uncover a way forward for you!
Here are some things that can help you with that.
Emotions! Making Sense of Your Feelings by Mary Lamia, PhD
This will help you understand your emotions and who you are, how you appear to others, and what you can be. While your emotional life may feel out of control, your emotions are valuable. It's time to figure just what your emotions are telling you!
Happy, Healthy Minds by The School of Life
This book looks at a bunch of topics that you might be dealing with, for example: when parents don’t seem to understand us; when we fall out with friends; when school feels boring or difficult; when we’re too busy and get overwhelmed; when our phones create trouble; when we feel sad, bored, anxious or fed up with things.
You Can Choose Your Own Life by Barbara Kerr and Barry Sommer
This book will help you make better decisions. It has five stories where the characters make decisions and immediately learning the consequences of whatever choices they have made.
Kayla Day, is in the eighth grade. She is introverted but also posts videos about self-confidence online. Soon, she realises she is not the person she is pretending to be and has to accept that.
Onward Two elven brothers, set out on an epic adventure to resurrect their late father for a day. But in the youngest brother has to accept himself first.
Inside Out Eleven-year-old Riley moves cities, leaving behind her life behind. She and her five core emotions, Fear, Anger, Joy, Disgust and Sadness, struggle to cope with her new life.
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