We have all been angry. You want to scream, or shout. The builds up inside and only thing you can think to do is get it all out. (That rhymed, impressed?) Well, anger is natural. But unfortunately, anger makes do this we regret later. We have all said stuff that we didn’t mean and ended up hurting someone close to us.
Now, sometimes our anger is justified. There are issues in this world that we should be angry about. Racism, equal rights, etc... are things to be angry about, for example.
What we are focusing on here are all the times you got angry and then later thought “Man, I probably shouldn’t have shouted at my brother for breathing”
If you think it is time to change, here are some things you can do.
Firstly, don’t lash out. Rather, become aware of your thoughts and feelings when you get angry. Then, try your absolute best not to do or say the first thing that pops into your head (probably the second and third thing as well. Yeah, don’t do those). This will help you act in a way that you probably want regret later.
Secondly - or maybe even firstly - identify what makes you angry. Make a list of all the things that boil your blood in your daily life. Then, when you notice one of those things happening, get ready to feel angry and see if you can calm down despite of it.
Thirdly, turn the “you” into an “I” (not eye). So often when we are angry, we are quick to blame others. “YOU are late” “YOU are so annoying”. Well, next time you get angry don’t focus on what someone else has done, but rather, focus on what you are feeling. Maybe you are feeling nervous, worried or upset. You know what I mean?
Good luck and forgive your brother for breathing – it's about time.
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