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Guilt is difficult describe, but we all feel it. You might feel guilty for a thought you've had or something you've done. While we think guilt is a bad thing, it can actually be a good thing too.

Guilt lets us know when we have done something wrong. You know what I am talking about. That uneasy feeling that sits at the bottom of your stomach. Yeah, that one.

The problem is when let your guilt make you feel miserable. It can make you worried and really upset. The good news is you teach yourself to stop feeling extremely guilty.

There are two different types of guilt. Healthy guilt is where you say you have done something wrong, and you use it to improve your relationships and how you act by:

Saying sorry

Fixing the damage you’ve done

Not repeating the same mistake twice

Accepting your mistake and moving on on

Unhealthy guilt is when you feel guilty for things that are imaginary or beyond your control. It can be hard to deal with, but you can manage your feelings by:

Understanding what you can and can't control

Challenging yourself to be better next time

Looking at the positive aspects of the situation

Standing up to people who make you feel guilty

There's no magical way to fix feeling too guilty. Overcoming it takes practice and consistent emotional work. To overcome guilt, you need to think about and recognise a few things. But first, start by asking yourself questions like, “What is making me feel guilty?” and “What am I thinking and doing because of my guilt?”.

Making positive thinking a habit can help overcome guilt. Note how you’re talking to yourself when you feel guilty. Are you saying things like “I should see my mom more” or “I could stop eating much so chocolate”?

Well, try turn “I should” or “I could” to something more positive, like “I get to”, “I deserve” or “I can”. For example, “I get to see my mom more” or “I can stop eating so much chocolate”

Once you have done that, try making a list of what you feel guilty about. Using that list, you can try:

Write a letter to someone who made you feel guilty

Help others to make feel less guilty about an issue you care for

Think about what makes you feel guilty differently so you can learn from it to help you move forward

While everyone's guilt is different, you are not alone in feeling guilty. Speaking about your guilt can open the doors to forgiveness, healing and relief.

If you are still feeling unsure, we have to some resources that will help.

Change your perspective and uncover a way forward for you!

Here are some things that can help you with that.

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Great
reads

Emotions! Making Sense of Your Feelings by Mary Lamia, PhD
This will help you understand your emotions and who you are, how you appear to others, and what you can be. While your emotional life may feel out of control, your emotions are valuable. It's time to figure just what your emotions are telling you!

Matilda by Roald Dahl
Sweet and bright little Matilda, a child of wondrous intelligence, is different from the rest of her family. Because she is so smart her family is mean to her.

Insignificant Events in the Life of a Cactus by Dusti Bowling
This book follows a spunky girl born without arms and a boy with Tourette syndrome navigating the challenges of middle school, disability, and friendship.

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Two elven brothers, set out on an epic adventure to resurrect their late father for a day. But in the youngest brother has to accept himself first.

Inside Out
Eleven-year-old Riley moves cities, leaving behind her life behind. She and her five core emotions, Fear, Anger, Joy, Disgust and Sadness, struggle to cope with her new life.

Spotify

This playlist will make you feel that good kind of guilt. Enjoy!

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