Jealousy can you make angry, sad or even ashamed. It’s never fun. Jealously comes up when you feel threaten by someone. You might feel someone is better than you, or your crush likes someone else. You want what the other person has, you feel jealous.
If you feel jealous here are some things you can do:
When you feel jealous listen to what you are thinking and the feelings in your body. Take a step back, and look the sensations, feelings and thoughts that come up when you feel jealous. You might just find that these feelings and thoughts are actually because of something that happened to you in the past, and now, that experience is making you feel jealous in the present.
Next, talk about it. Find someone who you can talk about your feelings with. Could be a friend, could be a parent. Just make sure this person is relaxed, listens carefully and doesn’t let you feel even more jealous. Remember, sometimes what we feel seems like a bigger deal to us than other people. Don’t forget that when talking about it. It will help you think about your problem more clearly, and you can then act in a better way.
We have to be emotionally mature to deal with the many feelings around jealousy. We sometimes have to fight the voice inside our head saying everything is bad. We also have to try our best not get angry and shot at the person making us jealous. But if we try our best not to do this it will makes us stronger and braver. By learning how to deal with jealousy, we feel better and have better relationships.
Change your perspective and uncover a way forward for you!
Here are some things that can help you with that.
YouTube
Great
reads
Wonder by
R. J. Palacio
An ordinary boy with an extraordinary face—who shows us that kindness brings us together no matter how far apart we are.
Out of My Mind by Sharon M. Draper
Melody is not like most people. She cannot walk or talk, but she has a photographic memory.
What to Do When It's Not Fair by Jacqueline B. Toner
A self-help book that will help show you ways to deal with jealousy and why these feelings may arise.
Great
Films
High School Musical
Two high school students, who are poles apart, secretly decide to audition for their school's musical. Their talent challenges the elite and turns their world upside down.
The Princess Bride
Buttercup, a princess, is madly in love with a farm boy. Unfortunately, things take a turn in their lives when Westley goes out in search of employment.
Sydney White
Sydney is banished from the most popular sorority. With the help of her new friends, she takes on the campus queen in a popularity showdown.
Spotify
Musicians feel jealous all the time, and once every while they write songs about it.
Podcasts
The Jealousy Cure
This episode focuses on some practical techniques that people can use to cope with their jealousy.
On Purpose
In this episode Jay Shetty gives you 7 ways to stop comparing yourself to others and tips on how to define your own personal success.
The Imperfects
Ryan talks about his bold career ambitions, and the complex feelings of jealousy and shame when he didn't feel like he was successful enough.
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