From the moment we are born there is expectations – our parents expect us to be certain way, a certain type of child. Expectations start with our family, then later our family, then soon enough the world starts to expect us to be a certain, to do certain things with our lives. These expectations might be to get a high-powered job, have a certain to type of body, or even just be constantly happen. Wherever we look we are bombarded with advertisements, movies, and social media telling us that we have to change, we need to do more if match up to others. All of these are expectations.
Sadly, we constantly asked us to be more, do more or have more. We are always told to do well. Eventually, these expectations become tiring and upsetting.
Below there are some things that will help. But, before you get to those, here are some things you can do to start living the world’s expectations.
Think out what you want. This can be really hard. We are constantly told what we should want for our lives. There is a million and one opinions, and it almost feels impossible to know what we actually want. Know that you might not find the answer straight away – it may take a long time and lot of hurt. But for now, it might be a good idea to just write down what is important to you. It could be the guitar, friends or climate change. Whatever it is make sure it’s something you really care about and could see yourself caring about for a long time. It doesn’t have to be big or impressive, as long as it matters to you, that’s fine.
Accept what you can and can’t control. As I said before the world expects a lot from us. Unfortunately, we cannot live up to all of its expectations. We can’t be an international model, who travels the world, manages four companies, and raises money for refugees by the selling the art we make in the evening. Instead, we have to focus on ourselves and what is right in front of us. We have to think about what expectations we can actually live up to right now; and let go the expectations we can’t. Just do the best you can to be in control of the little things, and the bigger things will take care of themselves.
Talk to others who might feel the same way. Remember, there are other people are dealing with the world’s expectations too. You are not alone. Find those people - whether it be online or in person. Share what is bringing you down, it helps.
Be gentle with yourself. Dealing with the world’s expectations is hard enough, don’t make it harder by being your own worst enemy. Watch how you talk to yourself. Don’t mentally beat yourself up. You can’t live up to everyone’s expectations and that’s okay.
I hope this helps.
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