Moving between two homes can be hard, and if it is not done right, it can make you fee sad and tired. If your parents are separated, you know the feeling. Here are some things you can do to make the whole process a little easier.
When your parents split up, you’re going to experience a whirlwind of emotions, sadness, worry, anger or even relief. This is normal and expected. It will take time to process these emotions. Be patient, and don’t blame yourself for feeling this way.
Remember it is not always about love. Sometimes you are going to have to stay at one parent more than the other. This doesn’t necessarily mean that one of them loves you more than the other. Sometimes it’s because of practical reasons like their house is closer to your school, or university, or they might have to go away for work. Keep this in mind. Also, don’t let one of your parents make you feel like you’re loved less, or worthless, if this is happening to you.
Make yourself comfortable at both homes. If you can, make a space for yourself in each home where you feel comfortable. Bring items that you feel comfortable – like a book, your laptop, or a bike – every time you move between your homes.
Communicate. Tell your parents what makes you feel comfortable or uncomfortable. If they are asking too many questions about your life at the other house, tell them to slow down. If you feel unsure about coming to theirs, tell them why. Communicating with your parents will help relieve stress, but also help your parents make it the best experience for you as possible.
Moving back and forth like this can be stressful and confusing. No matter how hard it gets, be open and honest and take care of yourself as best you can.
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What Happened to Goodbye by Sarah Dessen This book is based on a girl whose parents’ marriage has recently imploded in light of her mother’s affair, making it feel like life she’d known before doesn’t exist anymore.
Split in Two: Keeping it Together by Karen Buscemi
This book is a valuable resource guide to help teens feel less crazed and confused, and more self-confident during the transition of their parents splitting.
The Adults: A Novel by Caroline Hulse
Claire and Matt are no longer together but decide that it would be best for their daughter, Scarlett, to have a “normal” family Christmas.
Daniel, a divorced actor, disguises himself as Mrs Doubtfire, an ageing female Scottish housekeeper, in order to work in his ex-wife's house and spend more time with his children.
The Squid and the Whale Although the Berkman family appears to be an ideal one, they live a disjointed life. When the parents get separated, the children must deal with the trauma.
Eleven-year-old Riley moves to San Francisco, and her five core emotions, Fear, Anger, Joy, Disgust and Sadness, struggle to cope with her new life.
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