Someone close to you might have lost a family member, or a pet, or a friend. They are grieving - they feel intensely upset about what has happened. They most probably need your support and comfort. You might never have been in this position or are just unsure what to do. Here are some things to keep in mind:
Don’t be scared. Often when someone is grieving, you’re worried you’ll say or do the wrong thing. Don’t let that worry stop you from supporting them. What is more important is that you are there for them. Just do the best you can.
Listen first. Someone grieving is experiencing a whirlwind of thoughts and emotions. Don’t guess what they want or need. Listen to what they are feeling first. Make sure they feel understood and heard before you start trying to “fix things”.
Remember everyone is different. Someone might not grieve in the way you expect, or for as long as you expect. Be ready for this. Let them grieve in their own way. Let them take as much time as they need. Don’t force or rush them. Be patient, be understanding.
Be empathetic not sympathetic. Don’t dismiss their feelings by trying to be positive. Saying stuff like “They are in a better place now”, “Or at least____didn’t happen”, “Cheer up, things will get better” might not make someone feel comforted at all. Instead, listen to what they have to say, affirm their feelings and acknowledge their pain.
Offer help. It could be shopping for them, carrying their books to class, or spending the night at their place. Do what you can to help in any way. Someone grieving might not be able to cope with daily life. Helping out in practical ways could be exactly what they need right now.
Hang in there.
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