You have probably heard this a million times, but sleep is super important. Sleep is almost like the body’s way of restarting and make sure it’s ready for the next day. If you don’t have enough, you are probably finding it harder to deal with the pressures of day-to-day life. If this is you, don’t worry, we are here to help.
There is no problem with having big goals, but sometimes focusing on the outcome of a goal sets the stakes too high, and we crumble under the pressure. So, instead of focusing on the outcome of the goal, focus on the process of the goal. In other words, the journey should be the goal, and not the destination. I feel like you need an example. So, instead of saying “I want to become the world’s best skateboarder within a year”, a better goal would be “I want to learn all I can from skateboarding in the next year”. Focus on the process, it will take the pressure off.
Hope for the best but prepare for the worst. Well maybe not the worst, but just prepare for what could go wrong. If you are too positive, your brain will think that it’s going to be a walk in the park, and your motivation and drive will dry up. Don’t get me wrong, be positive, but be prepared.
There could be two possible reasons why you are struggling to fall asleep. The first is your phone and the second is stress. (These two reasons could also be connected).
If you are spending plenty of time on your phone or laptop, while lying bed (I know, it’s hard to resist), this is not a good thing. The light from your phone or laptop essentially tells your brain to stay awake, making hard for your brain to shut down. But it is not only about the light, it is about what you do on your phone. If you are endless scrolling through social media posts or binge watching your favourite shows, these are going to stimulate your brain. And you guessed it, your brain won’t want to fall asleep.
Okay, say you don’t use your phone. Instead, the problem is you can’t switch of your thoughts – you find yourself lying in bed stressing about ev-ery-thing. What you do in this situation – and this also applies to using your phone – is you need to tell brain and body that you’re headed for bed, and it is time to switch off. The thing is, you need to give your brain a bit of warning.
The way you can prepare your brain is by having a bedtime ritual. The ritual will tell your brain “I am going to sleep soon, get ready to switch off the lights”. So do things like only have one lamp before you go to bed, brush your teeth, have a warm shower. You could also put on some soothing music on just before you climb under the covers.
Next, make sure that you have as little stimulation as possible. So, do not look at a screen at least 30 minutes for you climb into bed. Don’t look at a screen while you are in bed. Try read a book you enjoy, or you have always wanted to read. Something to distract your mind, but that isn’t going keep you awake.
You can also buy a journal and write down any thoughts you have before get into bed. If your thoughts are still going wild when you are lying in bed, write those down too.
If none of that works, try this: breathe in through your month, until your stomach is filled with air, then breathe out through your nose. Repeat this cycle 10 times, then hold your breath for as long as possible. Then repeat the cycle of breathing in and out, hold your breath once you’ve done that 10 times. Keep repeating until you feel calmer. It works, trust me.
Good luck and sleep tight.