Being left out stings, big time. When our friends leave us out it makes us jealous, sad and leaves us feeling as if there is something wrong with us. These emotions are a normal reaction to being left out.
Humans need other people; we look for people who have the same interests and likes as us. When we can’t find this, feeling hurt is normal. This doesn’t make it any easier, but just know it is not only you.
Feeling left out or excluded can make us feel bad about ourselves. If you’re finding it difficult to deal with these feelings alone, we’ve found some resources that may help.
If you are feeling excluded, try to figure out what is making you feel this way. Was it a particular event, like a party or gathering that it seems everyone else was invited to? Or has it been a collection of smaller events?
Once you know what started making you feel this way, try opening up to friends about how you are feeling. Talking to them about how you feel can help. Just remember to choose the right time and place.
Remember, being left out is a bigger reflection on the person who did it and who they are, rather than you.
Change your perspective and uncover a way forward for you!
Here are some things that can help you with that.
YouTube
Great
reads
The Edge of Thirteen by Nova Weetman
Thirteen-year-old Clem deals with fitting in and falling out in this authentic story of friendship, from a beloved middle-grade author.
The Boy at the Back of the Glass
Told with heart and humour, The Boy at the Back of the Class is a child's perspective on the refugee crisis, highlighting the importance of friendship and kindness in a world that doesn't always make sense.
Emotions! Making Sense of Your Feelings by Mary Lamia, PhD
This will help you understand your emotions and who you are, how you appear to others, and what you can be. While your emotional life may feel out of control, your emotions are valuable. It's time to figure just what your emotions are telling you!
Great
Films
Diary of a Wimpy Kid
Imagine reading the diary of kid who has just started middle school and has to survive. Yup, that's what this film is about
UP
A boy scout and an old man set off on an adventure in a flying house. Their journey hard and dangerous. They have no choice but to be friends.
Napoleon Dynamite
A hilarious classic about nerdy guy who just wants to fit in. Don't we all...
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