Being left out stings, like big time. Social exclusion causes feelings of jealousy, rejection and makes you feel as if there is something wrong with you; these emotions are completely normal and natural.
We are social animals; we look for groups with similar interests or traits. When our need for social interaction is not met, feelings of pain are a natural response. This doesn’t make it any easier, but just know it is not only you.
Feeling left out or excluded impacts our self-esteem and self-worth. Here are a few resources that might help, if you’re finding it difficult to deal with these feelings alone.
If you are feeling excluded, try figure out what is making you feel this way. Was it a particular event, like a party or gathering that it seems everyone else was invited to? or has it been a collection of smaller events that implies a divide between you and everyone else?
Once you have got the root of the problem, try to open up to friends about how you are feeling. This could be an issue easily solved with honest and open communication, that is done in the right space, and at the right time. They might not have even realised that they left you out, or if they did intentionally do it, then you can reconsider whether you need to find other people to be around.
Change your perspective and uncover a way forward for you!
The World According to Mister Rogers by Fred Rodgers Fred Rogers is an enduring presence and beloved American figure; his inspiring collection of stories, anecdotes and insights reminds us there is much more in life that unites us than divides us. This book is highly recommended for anyone feeling a little out of touch or left behind.
We Are Okay by Nina LaCour
We Are Okay centres around college student Marin as she attempts to move on from a tragedy she’s tried to outrun. Marin struggles through the transition into adulthood from her teenage years, and after returning home for the winter, is forced to confront her acute sense of loneliness and disconnect.
Normal People by Sally Rooney
Marianne and Connell are from completely different worlds, but both find common ground in their sense of restlessness and disconnect from the others. This story explores the electric draw of a first love and finding consolation in the unexpected.
The Art of Getting By
George, a lonely teen, has no interest in going to school. Things begin to change for him when he befriends Sally, who gives him enough motivation to attend school.
Wild One woman hikes alone for 1100 miles solo to recover from tragedy. Protagonist Cheryl Strayed is a recent divorcee, whose long adventure allows her to meet new people and rediscover her strength of self and passion for life on this lone journey.
Wonder August, a boy with a rare facial abnormality, enters the fifth grade in a private school where he befriends Jack. The two form a strong bond while facing the bullies in their class.
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