Making friends can feel scary and overwhelming, but you’re not the only one feeling this way. You’re dealing with new and difficult problems. A close circle of friends can help you in dealing with new challenges, because your friends are dealing with the same things. Friendships can make us feel happy. It’s so important to comfortably share your thoughts, feelings and struggles with your friends. Friendships are a unique type of relationship, different from family and romantic relationships because you get to fully choose your friendships.
Seeing people regularly and having common interests are really important parts of making friends. We generally like those we see every day and people who share the same hobbies or traits as us, because then we have something to talk about. In high school, it may seem like everyone’s already got an established group of friends, making it hard to make new friends. However, school can really help in expanding social circles; being surrounded by people with common interests. You never know, you might just find someone who is a lot like you.
As a teenager, you’re still figuring out who you are, and dealing with the social pressure of growing up. Other people are going through the same thing and talking to them about it can help you become better friends. If you’re finding it difficult to talk to others your own age, try searching for common ground; maybe a viral TikTok or YouTube trend.
But remember, you should never have to feel like you need to change who you are to make friends. The reason they are your friends is to support you and make your life better, not harder. Therefore, being someone else just to make friends isn't the best idea. You are unique and special for a reason and the differences that you make you, you, are what will attract other people who are similar to you.
Change your perspective and uncover a way forward for you!
Here are some things that can help you with that.
YouTube
Great
reads
Invisible Emmie by Terri Libenson
A tale of girl who feels invisible to everyone at her school. The problem is she doesn't want to feel this way anymore - especially around one boy in particular.
Bridge to Terabithia by Katherine Paterson
This novel follows two lonely children, who create a magical forest kingdom in their imaginations, called Terabithia.
The Whipping Boy
A boy who works for a prince, finds himself in a terrible dream with is master. To escape their situation the boy and prince are forced to be friends with each other.
Great
Films
Diary of a Wimpy Kid
Imagine reading the diary of kid who has just started middle school and has to survive. Yup, that's what this film is about
UP
A boy scout and an old man set off on an adventure in a flying house. Their journey hard and dangerous. They have no choice but to be friends.
Wonder
August, a boy with a rare facial abnormality, enters the fifth grade in a private school where he befriends Jack. The two form a strong bond while facing the bullies in their class.
Spotify
The perfect playlist to share with a friend. Just sitting here, waiting to be shared.
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